the beginning…

thank you blog

inspired by our journey through fertility, i found the need to reach out to my community for my own sanity and to start a different conversation on social media. i started with facebook and instagram…and now here we are. the posts that got the conversation started:

posted on april 12, 2016

well, it’s not the prettiest picture I’ve ever posted, but it tells a story // a story of waiting…number 68 and they’ve called 45 and 46 in the last hour // at this rate i should get in tomorrow ‪#‎fertilityproblems // waiting at yet another calgary lab to hand over some blood and hopefully get some long awaited answers // for over a year, the hubs and i have been trying to start a family with little success // we came close early on but it was not to be // this journey has been a difficult one and we are so lucky to have the support of some pretty amazing humans // but for many couples, they walk this road alone // whether it’s shame or embarrassment or not wanting to make other people feel uncomfortable, they just don’t talk about it // but if there’s one thing i’ve learned over the last little while, it’s that you are never alone // the more you share and speak openly and honestly about your experience, the more you will realize the truth in that statement // the grief, the sadness, the anger, the frustration are all real and shared by those who have been through this // it’s my hope that by sharing our story, we can encourage others to do the same // because after all, sometimes you need the people around you to carry you for a bit when it’s too hard to walk alone 💕// so follow along on our journey if you like and for all those people who have asked us ‘when are you starting a family?’ // here is your answer // as soon as frickin’ possible! 😉 .
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‪#‎fertility ‪#‎yyc ‪#‎getreal ‪#‎calgary ‪#‎adulting ‪#‎infertilitysucks ‪#‎infertilityjourney‪#‎letstalkaboutit ‪#‎waiting ‪#‎faith ‪#‎nourish ‪#‎takecare ‪#‎inspired ‪#‎community‪#‎support ‪#‎sangha ‪#‎friends ‪#‎family ‪#‎weareinthistogether

waiting blog

posted on april 14, 2016

from the bottom of our hearts // thank you // the response we have received over the past 48 hours has been overwhelming to say the least // i can only hope that all couples on their own fertility journey, receive the same kind of love and support that we have // we are so grateful for the love, the advice, the shared experiences and the baby dust  that has been sent our way // i truly hope that this conversation can continue here and in your own lives // if you are struggling, know that it is so okay to talk about and it can actually be quite healing and helpful if you do // it may only be a small comfort to know that others have faced similar challenges, but it is a comfort nonetheless // if you know someone struggling, trust that all they need from you is love and support and very often a shoulder or an ear…or a tissue 😉 // all we can do is create space to support one another and we thank you for the space you all created for us // 💕
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‘the irony is that we attempt to disown our difficult stories to appear more whole or more acceptable. but our wholeness – even our wholeheartedness – actually depends on the integration of all of our experiences, including the falls.’ ~ brene brown
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‪#‎fertilityproblems ‪#‎fertility ‪#‎wegotthis ‪#‎family ‪#‎friends ‪#‎love ‪#‎gratitude‪#‎thankful ‪#‎thank you ‪#‎yyc ‪#‎calgary ‪#‎letstalkaboutit ‪#‎adulting ‪#‎dailydose‪#‎faith ‪#‎getreal ‪#‎healing ‪#‎home ‪#‎inspired ‪#‎weareinthistogether‪#‎photooftheday ‪#‎instagood ‪#‎infertilitysucks ‪#‎fertilityjourney ‪#‎magic ‪#‎nourish‪#‎peace ‪#‎sangha ‪#‎squadgoals ‪#‎teamtitterton

thank you blog

posted on april 19, 2016

a few weeks ago, i said to a friend of mine, ‘i’m either going to remove myself from social media completely, or i’m going to put our experience out there and start another conversation’ // given my line of work, removing myself from social media didn’t seem like a realistic option, so another conversation won and here we are // social media is an amazing thing // it creates and sustains connections, it supports brand management and it is a place to share moments in time // unfortunately, for women in the throes of fertility issues, social media can be a dangerous place // though it provides us with a platform to create meaningful dialogue; inevitably, people will choose to share their triumphs over their struggles and their joy instead of their pain // as such, women of a certain age are inundated with pregnancy announcements, maternity photoshoots, birth announcements, photos and videos of new babies, etc // obviously, we are over-the-moon for our friends who are celebrating // but inside, we die a little bit each time // my mom recently reflected on her own fertility experience with me and pointed out the additional challenge that we have today, with the presence of social media // 20 years ago, birth announcements came in the mail, maternity photoshoots were relegated to photo albums or bedroom walls, and you saw a new baby if you were invited or if you dropped by with a lasagna for the new parents // in short, you could avoid it if you had to // and even if you couldn’t, those moments were few and far between // these days these moments are everywhere and they feel completely unavoidable at times // i would never aim to make anyone feel bad for sharing their joy // you better believe that when it happens for us, we will be loud and proud in our celebration as parents and parents-to-be // but it is important to me that we create space for everyone’s journey, whether it was an easy one or a hard one // social media celebrates the destination, but human beings support the journey…🐌
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‪#‎infertilitysucks ‪#‎fertilityjourney ‪#‎fertility ‪#‎fertilityproblems ‪#‎yyc ‪#‎support‪#‎adulting ‪#‎dailydose ‪#‎photooftheday ‪#‎inspired ‪#‎instagood ‪#‎letstalkaboutit‪#‎teamtitterton

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2 thoughts on “the beginning…

  1. You are amazing Nicole. What a wonderful thing you are doing. We need to talk about this because is happens a lot…..
    Keep your thoughts positive and “trust the timing of your life.” This quote helped me when I went through a miscarriage back in the Fall of 2014.
    And yes, we did successfully get pregnant and I gave birth to a wonderful little boy. Your time will come, just trust.

    1. oh tara, thank you so much. i totally agree that this conversation needs to happen. as soon as we start talking about it, this beautiful little community opens wide up. i’m sorry to hear that you miscarried, but it’s so true that timing and trust is everything. nothing by chance, everything for the best. ps – your little guy is heaven <3

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